6 Behaviors of Narcissists We Can "Learn" From and Use Differently Without Being Toxic
6 Behaviors of Narcissists We Can "Learn" From and Use Differently Without Being Toxic
There are six behaviors of narcissists we can learn from and use very differently to help us heal from them - it's not what you think.
There are six behaviors of narcissists we can learn from and use very differently to help us heal from them - it's not what you think.
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“Undoubtedly none of us want to become narcissistic nor would we want to take on any of these traits. However, there are certain behaviors narcissists engage in that we can actually observe and “learn from” and implement very differently in order to live better lives. To be clear, the narcissist’s ways of life are extreme and maladaptive and not something to be followed the way narcissists use them. Yet if you tend to be people-pleasing, overly forgiving, and compassionate, there are five behaviors you can further look at, adapt and implement in healthier ways to set better boundaries for yourself to improve and enhance the quality of your life. Think of this as a thought exercise to pinpoint which unhealthy codependent patterns you may have. This is not about being toxic, cruel, or unempathic toward others: on the contrary, this is about being more compassionate and empathic toward yourself.
Behavior #1: Narcissists and otherwise toxic people prioritize themselves. They don’t tolerate people who don’t benefit them. When was the last time you put yourself first? Narcissists do it all the time. It’s all about their needs, their desires, and what they feel they deserve. Without being as selfish and self-absorbed as the narcissist, there are healthy ways to prioritize yourself too. You are just as important and worthy as anyone else. You are just as deserving of good things. You are the only person who can take care of you. If you’ve spent most of your life being selfless and engaging in a great deal of emotional labor for others, it may just be time to visit the other end of the spectrum.
Are there relationships that are draining you more than they are adding value to your life? While you may not view relationships as transactionally like the narcissist does, you are encouraged to cut ties with toxic people who exploit you and build stronger connections with those who cheer you on and celebrate your strengths. You deserve respect and reciprocity in your relationships. Revisit the areas of your life where you feel neglected by others and give yourself extra nourishment and attention in these areas. Start to reserve some of your emotional energy for yourself and cut down on the labor you’re always performing for others. Instead, think about engaging in actions that benefit you and improve the quality of your life, self-esteem, and self-care…”