How to Stop the Fast Forwarding and Future Faking of Narcissists
A dating tip from my 2023 article and 2017 book Power.
A dating tip from my 2023 article and 2017 book “Power” on how to prevent a narcissist from manipulating you.
Resist fast-forwarding and love-bombing. Don’t take future faking at face value. Avoid dating partners who seem to contact you 24/7 and are excessively persistent. This can be a red flag of love bombing and trying to fast-forward the relationship with a hidden agenda. Resist attempts by dating partners who promise you an ideal relationship, marriage, children, or swear they will take care of you financially prematurely before they even get to know you.
You can closely look at the actions of your dating partners rather than their words and see if they are actually going to follow through or are just dangling the carrot so you invest in them. In many ways, love and dating is the same as doing business. If someone promises something to you, in business interactions you make sure to get it in writing and document it. If they breach the contract, they can face legal consequences and you are owed compensation.
In dating and relationships, you usually can’t be compensated for unpaid labor and exploitation which means you need to be even more vigilant of the red flags to avoid wasting your time, energy, and efforts.
One of the most powerful ways to combat this manipulation tactic is to slow down their love bombing from the very beginning.
The narcissist will fast-forward you with future-faking and excessive contact, attention, and affection early on. The key is to slow down their love bombing without them realizing it. Make sure you allude to having a fulfilling life packed with activities so they don’t grow suspicious ahead of time.
That way, they know they’ll have to earn your time and energy with genuine gestures and actions – and most narcissists will opt out early in those cases because they want a victim who falls easily for their mind games. Even the ones who stick around because they like a challenge will eventually become worn out from chasing you.