It’s not your kindness or compassion toward narcissistic or psychopathic manipulators and dark triad personalities that helps you heal from the cycle of mistreatment.
For decades, new age spiritual communities have demonized the true attributes and behaviors that could help us break free from manipulative people and encouraged “love and light” spiritual bypassing, which only increased the avoidance. Avoidance of our authentic emotions can actually strengthen trauma-related symptoms and keep us stuck on the emotional hamster wheel of rationalizing the mistreatment survivors have experienced and trapped in the loop of forgiving and forgetting our way into further harm.
Spiritual bypassing became dangerous when it allowed us to shut off our natural defense system against predatory people and mute the protective mechanisms and instincts that helped keep us safe.
Here is the key to actually breaking free and breaking the trauma bond authentically — without the spiritual bypassing.

