The Reason Narcissists Want You to "Let Things Go."
And how to break the trauma bond.
The real reason narcissistic and psychopathic individuals want you to “let things go“ and “not hold onto the past” is because the past holds valuable information about their patterns that could ground you in the reality of their abuse and help you detach from them. They want to gaslight you by framing your discernment of their actions, violations, and behavioral patterns as a character flaw or an inability to forgive. In reality, your “inability to let things go” can save your life. It can save you from a lifetime’s worth of trauma. They are not the arbiter of how you process their mistreatment nor do you owe anyone forgiveness for chronically harming you. If they didn't want you to bring up the past, they shouldn’t have repeated it in the first place. —Shahida Arabi, bestselling author of Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare and Breaking Trauma Bonds with Narcissists and Psychopaths.
Breaking Trauma Bonds with Narcissists and Psychopaths is available in all major physical bookstores including your local Barnes & Noble and everywhere books are sold.
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